All I Want For Christmas is a Divorce

It appears we are going down the road of a battle for divorce.  It may not end up that way.  We'll see.  My attorney and I felt it best to actually file for divorce to put some pressure on JY and his attorney to sign the Decree we negotiated with a few changes that they asked for.  We could still come to an agreement before a trial.  I'm not sure if that will happen or not.  I have no idea what it's worth to him. 

I have no idea if JY is even being honest with his attorney.  He sent me an email from his employer that he's no longer in training and received a schedule that he wanted.  However, in the pleadings his attorney filed it states his income as the one for the schedule he did not want.  He may have gotten the information from his employer after he signed papers with his attorney.  But I'm not so sure.  

In the meantime, I signed up to take a parenting class next week which is ordered by the court.  Fortunately, I don't have to take it with JY.  That would be a nightmare to coordinate.  He has to take one, too.  He can figure it out on his own.  We have until the end of January to complete the requirement.  I didn't want to wait, since the holidays get so busy.  There's always a chance that we settle, but I didn't want to wait until then just in case we don't.

After the parenting class, the next day on my calendar is December 2nd at 9am.  That will be my first appearance with my attorney in front of the judge for an initial case management conference.  Let the fun begin!

A New Horizon?

This was the first weekend in over a month that M wasn't with me.  I had all sorts of things planned for myself.  Who knew I would meet a fun fellow, too.  I met J M for lunch on Friday and had a blast!  It was like meeting an old friend.  In fact, he reminds me of my buddy Rick, who lives in Chicago.  We got together again Saturday and Sunday.  And we plan to see each other again on Wednesday. 

Who knows where this will go.  But at least this beginning part is fun and easy.  I had already met 2 other guys in person.  And they were nice people, but not that interesting.  I also felt they were trying to "fix" me.  The things is I don't feel "broken."  Also I felt they were pushing to meet me which is nice, but I was hoping that they could wait until I didn't have M with me or meet for lunch during the workday.  Even though relationships are hard.  I think meeting up should start out being easy.  There's plenty of hard stuff that will come with time.

It's been a long time since I felt this giddy about someone.  I'm not sure I even felt this way about JY.  Although maybe I did, but his behavior of late has erased those feelings from my memory. 

Who knows what will happen?  Could Wednesday be the last time I see JM?  I hope not.  Whatever happens it gives me hope for the future.  Dating can be fun!